This is what I really mean when I say that respect is just the way it is. I am always looking at the way that I have been viewed. No matter what I do, I want to make sure that I am understanding the way that I am supposed to be. If I am not understanding, I don’t respect. I don’t want to be understood.
You will certainly think that the reason why you choose to have a go at your new friend is because you are going to be seen by her a certain amount of times. That’s only part of it.
Respect is a very simple thing. You have to take a moment to really think about what you are about to do. I have a friend that is a bit of a douche. She loves to tell me that she is a virgin and whatnot, and all I am doing is going to fuck her brains out. I am not going to do that.
But if you really want to get to the bottom of something, you need to really think about it. There’s a simple rule that goes a long way toward determining what you should and shouldn’t do/say. It’s the “respect begets respect” rule. In short, it means that the more you respect someone, the more you feel that you can do for them.
As a newbie to the game, I really couldn’t care less about the details, but I do love the fact that I can now ask myself, “What does this mean to me?” or “What am I doing right now to help this team achieve their goals?” Sometimes people just have to take a chance. Sometimes a douche bag just needs a hug.
I could go on and on with the examples and the fact that I’m a complete idiot, but I’ll save that for another article.
I could go on and on, but I think it’d take an entire article.
Thats the beauty of self-awareness. It allows us to recognize the fact that we can’t always control everything. It also allows us to recognize that sometimes we need to take a chance and have fun in the process.
People who have an attitude of “I know I can’t control everything, but I’m gonna get through this anyway” are not in control of themselves or others. People who have an attitude of “I’ll get through this anyway” are not in control of themselves or others.
I’m tired of seeing people who talk to themselves as if they are all powerful. They never are. They are just talking to themselves. It’s the same as when we talk to ourselves and then look at our own reflection in a mirror. They are not our reflection, they are our thoughts.